Sometimes Happiness Is Managing Sadness that you feel…

 

Sometimes Happiness is managing sadness that you feel from a loss in your life. Some people suffered the loss of a loved one. Others manage sadness from a marriage breakup. Often families are separated when that happens. One person mentioned that when families break up, all the friends get divided like cell mitosis, becoming his, the husband’s, friends, or her, the wife’s friends, from then on.

Some mourn the loss of a job, or maybe even a career. Business people sometimes are voted out of companies that they founded, or helped to build. (Think Steve Jobs, when he was voted out of Apple)

The older a worker gets, the more they know, the better they get. But also the slower they get, and the more they need to sit down after strenuous effort.

But Happiness is the opposite of Sadness, and mourning. Does it mean that you don’t feel sad frequently, when you think of the person, relationship, career, job, youth, that you may have lost? You may feel some kind of way about these losses. And, that is normal. But, remember the good times, more than the sad. Remember the Sunshine more than the Rain. Remember like the Frankie Beverly song: “Joy and Pain is like Sunshine and Rain”.

We are often told by health professionals to create a “Gratitude Journal”. Begin to write about what we are thankful for. Write about what we are happy about. Take care of yourself during these times. Be aware of how you are feeling and take control of your emotions. Life can get better. You will get through this. You are not alone.

Turn the page on this sad chapter of your life. Move on to a brighter future. There may be a change of attitude you need to make. New clothes that represent the new you, and your new life. Remember you can buy clothes at thrift stores that are name brand, and classicly styled. And, you look fabulous! New people, new job, new career,… Anything’s possible if you believe.

Happiness Is A Loving Family Life

African American Parents Giving Children Piggyback Rides

Have you ever seen a family that wants to be together, interacting, joking, laughing, teasing, arguing, hugging, making up, etc? Family can be a wonderful, encompassing bunch of fun sometimes. On the other hand, families can have a bunch of drama, turmoil, arguments, bad feelings, ill will, grudge fests, and the like.

It depends on the family that you are discussing. If you were lucky enough to find your soul mate, commit to your relationship, get married, and have a family, you are blessed. If you have had a little, and perhaps even a lot of money, wealth, and resources, you are double blessed. But even as the lyrics from a Luther Vandross tune says, ” I’d rather have bad times with you, than good times with someone else. I’d rather be beside you in a storm, than safe warm by myself… Hard times together than to have it easy apart. I’d rather have someone who holds my heart…”

Luther sang also about Dancing with his father again. Family can bring such happiness, when the love is there. And the love of a Father is precious, as well. Mother’s love is legendary.

Do you have a family? Is there love there? Do they love you, adore you? Do you feel accepted, included, depended upon? Responsible? Burdened, maybe? I suppose that there are two sides of the coin in familial relationship. Love and committment. Dependency and Responsibility. Security and Provision. I love my family. I count my blessings that I have their love, and that they love me.

I saw an excellent interview of Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith, on the Oprah Winfrey Show. I was so impressed with Will and Jada as a Hollywood Power couple. I liked to hear what they said about their family. Much respect to them both.

Edward Robinson